reimagine me

HAPPINESS IS...

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reimagine me: HAPPINESS IS...

I never knew happiness is a choice. 

It was only when I learnt that our minds, thoughts and emotions are linked to our autonomic nervous system and how our thoughts and emotions constantly impact our physical responses (think blushing), when the dots connected for me.

Negative emotions and thoughts such as anger, worry, anxiety, fear, resentment, bitterness, judgment, guilt or unforgiveness cause tremendous stress in our bodies which eventually may negatively impact our health. Louise Hay did amazing work in this field. 

The great news is that with awareness and choice we can claim power over our negative emotions and thoughts and choose how we think and respond. For some of us, achieving such a state of peace and happiness can take a while, so we need to be consistent and practice happiness until happiness happens naturally. 

Decisions create awareness

I've learnt that lasting change begins with a decision. Think back to when you were a child - when you really, really wanted something... what happened? You decided you want it and then you imagined what it feels like to have it. We get excited about it and never stop believing it's possible. That's how we create with our decisions and feelings. So it's exactly the same process to find happiness - we need to want it and feel it and practice until it happens automatically. 

The reason it may feel like hard work to be happy, is because negativity is a very strong force. It's like getting caught in a current and the more you fight, the more you loose. Instead you need to do the opposite - relax and gently swim across the current.

Once we see our negative emotions as messengers, we become objective and realise we're not the emotion, we're just experiencing the emotion. This then opens the door for our healing to begin and happiness to flow. 

So once the true desire and commitment is there, here's how I coach myself to live happy:

Smile, move and think exactly the opposite 

Every time I become aware of a negative thought, I follow three quick conscious steps:

  1. SMILE Smiling releases hormones that boost your feel good factor, regardless if you fake it
  2. MOVE  Change your  physiology, it helps to break a thought pattern so get up, sit down, yawn, stretch, put on music, whatever works for you. 
  3. REFRAME Our subconscious creates our reality and as it takes exactly the same effort to be negative or positive then why not rather choose to be positive? One way is to eliminate a negative thought is to become creative and she what you can come up with by thinking an exact opposite thought. Another way is to reframe your thought  and words positively for example, I'm fat (negative) v I'd love to be thinner (positive) - your subsconsicous registers 'love to be thin' and helps you create exactly that.

Doing this over and over not only shaped my thinking, it also helped me gain control over my emotions and actions and made me confident that the power to reimagine is within me.

Let me know how you go or if you wish to talk more, click here and let's make a time to find your happy place...

 

 

tagged with · anger  unforgiveness  worry  anxiety  fear  resentment  bitterness  self judgment  

  

1 comment

Stella

23 January 2017 00:23
Wow! Talk about a posting kninokcg my socks off!


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